When we make decisions and take responsibility for our own wellbeing, we try to create systems that support us, whether that's eating a different diet, moving much more, bathing more, taking time off.
Over the past six months, clients have been coming forward to discover more about getting clear and listening to their inner compass. Meditation and quiet time practice has become part of the journey for them.
For me, having a consistent 'quiet time, be still kinda practice' (call it meditation, call it relaxation, call it being still) is just as important and is a vital system to support, nurture and ground me, especially as I'm working with clients.
However meditation seems to conjure up all sorts of feelings for people.
They try it and it doesn't 'work'.
People have a go at trying to empty their mind of all thoughts, which is actually a reeeealllly difficult thing to do, and so when it doesn't happen, (**hello thoughts**), they believe they 'can't meditate', they give up and don't bother.
Here's the thing, meditation means setting aside some quiet time every day to sit still
What you do during the 'sitting still' can be up to you.
* Some people just focus on being mindful of their breathing.
* Some people count their breath, hold it and then exhale.
* Some people use a prayer or an affirmation and say it in their mind.
* Some people use a Sanskrit mantra to help the mind to stop whirring.
* Some people will look at a candle flame.
* Some people will listen to music and lie down/sit in a chair/on the floor.
Meditation is code for 'Stopping.'
It will be different for everyone however the gem of meditation is finding the time and setting this aside as part of your daily practice.
One of the ways that works well to soothe the mind is to choose a particular mantra or phrase.
Saying this over and over to yourself, you'll find that you may suddenly remember an item for your shopping list! if you do, say 'thank you' and return to your mantra/phrase.
If you remember that you need to call a family member, say thank you and return to your mantra/phrase.
Sitting still is an accumulative practice, it builds up within your body, mind and spirit and you suddenly find, after a month of doing it, that if you miss one day, you'll miss it.
Plus add in a Mantra, your unconscious will thank you.
I am feeling Calm
I am feeling Confident
I am feeling Courageous
So Hum (Sanskrit for I am )
Time out in your day, every day, is taking responsibility for your own well being.
Whether you choose to meditate every morning before your day begins, or whether you meditate early morning, find somewhere in the morning space to sit still for 3 minutes.
You will find your own way.
But you have to practice.
Make the space every day to sit and invite quiet time in.
Try this ...
Find a chair that feels comfortable for you, somewhere you won't be disturbed, wrap yourself in a blanket, feel warm and cosy.
Turn off your phone sound and set the clock timer for your desired time.
Choose a gentle reminder tone. I love 'slow rise'.
Start with 3 minutes and build up every week until you get to 13 minutes.