Mental Health Mantra 38/365

Crying is OK.

This kept coming up for me this week, there have been lots of tears and letting go.

My Dad has been tested positive for Covid and is now on his 6th day of isolation in his room -  extremely hard for an elderly person who has vascular dementia and doesn't quite understand why they can't sit with their friends.  Today he's very sleepy and lethargic. I hope his immune system is forming a response - he is a tough cookie.

Crying is OK.

It's okay to cry and sob for people who have passed. 

The wave hits, it's okay to let the sob move through you.

I sat and watched a memorial service last night of a wonderful woman in our community who suddenly and devastatingly passed away aged 63 a week ago, leaving her husband, 7 children and 17 grandchildren. She was a humorous and kind hearted soul, her community meant the world to her, as did all her family.  I knew her via one of my oldest school friends and the family connection.  The service was incredibly moving, with speeches given by her children and brothers. I sobbed my way through it.

Feeling the feelings of loss and letting it move through me.

Loss and what that means to me, with losing my Mum and all that's happening in the country and the world. 

Crying is Ok.

Crying is energy in motion - why it's called e-motion.

Today's Mental Health Mantra is a reminder that it's ok to cry. 

What I know as a holistic counsellor and spiritual life coach, if it feels more support is needed, reaching out and seeking help is a strength,  releasing and talking about what's behind the tears is crucial so that these tears and sadness don't remain in the body where it generates stagnated energy and can cause dis-ease and inflammation.

We can cry and be strong all at the same time.
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'Art with Heart - Calm your Mind, Soothe your Soul.'

Dearest She

I have been writing to you since you passed, picking up a pen to write is my go-to because I know we shared a love of writing and the written word.   I feel close to you when I'm writing you letters.

Are you near?

I hope and pray that you're now running, skipping and dancing free, just like the 7 year old ballerina in the DVD from 1942. 

I am so very heart broken that you're no longer here physically - devastated - I know how tired your physical body was and it just couldn't go on.  

I was singing the other day to Edelweiss on the radio, we loved singing together and especially those harmonies as we did the washing up..

I want to curl up and hide away but right now I'm needed here, I'm tired and need to rest.

It's Poetry Group tonight, the title you all chose back in August is still Somewhere Else, it seems so fitting now. 

We are all reconnecting around your table, to honour you.  I had planned to join the poetry clan anyway when I returned, now I'm sitting in your chair. 

I hope I'll be okay. 

I have found the beginning of your poem that you began in August, after the last session.  Who knew you wouldn't be there, things took a turn for the worst and here we are, without you. 

I have also written my poem.

I do hope you are listening.

I bought biscuits.

Dear She

It was a lovely night, everyone was so kind and pleased to be back, celebrating you.  

We talked of you and they shared their stories.

Stories are everything.

Memories are what I crave.

They shared their own poems, of Somewhere Else, and also Poems written about you.

How wonderful these words were, you would have been so humbled, tears would have fallen, just as they did for me.

I hope you know you are and were, incredibly loved by all people you came into contact. 

I hope you hear.

Love your Jules x